Here's a demo using Picasa, the free post-processing app from Google. In the original image, my wife's arm is much too bright and vivid, and is very distracting:
In Picasa, I applied the selective color effect (called "Focal B&W") to bring the focus on our daughter's expression:

I think it's an improvement from the original version. However, the selective color effect is very prominent, and may not look appealing after a while.
If you don't have the ability to control the opacity of the selective color effect, an easy alternative to soften the effect is to use warmify:
The result is that the surrounding areas are still de-emphasized and less saturated, but the effect doesn't call attention to itself.

